Bar Mitzvah Gifts for Boys

• Many types of gifts are suitable at a modern bar mitzvah. FEV Create Inc/Stockbyte/Getty Images

  A bar mitzvah is an important religious and social event marking a Jewish boy's 13 th birthday. It signifies the beginning of religious responsibility. If you are invited to attend one, it is customary to buy the teenager a gift. You can opt for a traditional Jewish-themed gift, however this is not compulsory. If you do not know the boy well or are unfamiliar with Judaism, a non-religious gift is acceptable. Hand over your gift at the reception following the service, rather than at the service itself.

Traditional Jewish Gifts

• Go traditional. Jewish items such as Star of David and Evil Eye protection pendants, bracelets and ornaments and Tzedakah boxes are widely available to purchase in Jewish stores and online. Remember that copies of the Torah and Kiddush Cups are usually given by the boy's parents or closest relatives. If you are unsure about the suitability of a traditional Jewish gift, ask the local rabbi or the boy's parents first.

Books

• An inspiring book or biography is an appropriate gift. You could make it relevant to the event by choosing a title related to Judaism. For example the titles, "Great Jewish Men" and "Great Jews in Sports" are both available to purchase online. It may be a good idea to include an exchange card where possible, in case someone else has the same idea.

The Number 18

• Incorporate the number 18. It is considered a favorable number in Judaism. You could buy saving bonds, shares or gift vouchers in multiples of 18. Or get creative and make a special Bar Mitzvah scrapbook containing 18 pages.

Personalized Gifts

• An item featuring the boy's name or initials is thoughtful and special. You could buy a wooden box, a photo album, photo frame or even a pocket knife and get it engraved.

Electronic Gifts

• What 13 year old boy wouldn't appreciate a copy of the latest computer game, or DVD? These sorts of gifts are perfectly acceptable in most Jewish communities. Ask his parents first if you are unsure. Get an exchange card in case he already has the title.