How to Handle Controlling Parents

Having controlling parents can impact your emotional growth in a negative way. Children with controlling parents tend to doubt their choices. At times they will not defend themselves or they will allow others to abuse them. Children of controlling parents are at higher risk for anxiety, panic attacks and depression to name a few. Most parents who are controlling don't even realize that there is an issue. Parents believe that they have their children's best interest at heart. No parent wants to hear that their parenting style is harming the emotional growth of their child. Sadly, they may not change. There are some steps you can take to handle controlling parents.

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  Discuss the situation with another adult whom you trust. Explain how your parents are making you feel about yourself. Sometimes it will take another adult confronting your parents for them to realize that they are too controlling when it comes to parenting. You are not responsible for their actions, they are.

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  Remain calm when situations arise that would normally upset you. Face your parents eye to eye. Never look down or away. Listen and hear what your parents are saying. In return, ask them to listen to your view of things. While they may or may not hear you, you have taken a stand for yourself and your emotional well-being.

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  Empathize and understand that some of the control tactics come out of fear for your safety and well-being. Respect your parent's home until you are able to leave on your own. While you may not be able to change things, you can remove yourself from the situation. Plan to attend a college out of state and work toward that goal. Setting goals for yourself will give you something to work toward in improving your situation.

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  Be patient with controlling parents. Most times they think that they are in a power struggle with you. Demands are generally made to make them feel in control. Let them have it. Treat them with respect and kindness. You control the atmosphere of the conversation by defusing it.